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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2018 14:46:10 GMT 10
Warning: long post ahead Your guys' mother reminds me of my mother (when it comes to education that is). When I was in early elementary school (like Grades 1-3) she used to pull me by the ear and lock me in the closet and wouldn't let me out until I got my spellings or multiplication tables correct. If I cried too loud or protested, she would take me out, beat me up and throw me back in. I don't envy going back to that! When I came second place in the finals at a regional spelling bee, I almost cried on stage when they were giving the award, I thought I was going to get a beating when I got to home but thankfully she was semi-proud and bought me a couple of video games  After that (Grades 4-9) I was shuttled from tuition place to tuition place. When I got home for school it was an additional 2 hours of tutoring on top of that, and I also had the most psychotic homeroom teacher in Grade 4/5 too. He was like my mother in teacher form, it was never ending homework. As a kid I was extremely sad I couldn't go out and play with my friends. This was before the era of PVRs too and I didn't have a VCR either, so I'd miss all the big TV shows the other kids were talking about (like Pokémon/Yu-Gi-Oh!) and felt left out, like I wasn't having a real childhood. I look back on my childhood more fondly, but in reality I remember being mostly a sad and tired kid back then. My parents forced me to read as a kid too, but I didn't mind. I live in Canada so it's impossible to go outside for 5/6 months of the year due to extreme cold, and reading is a nice way to pass the time indoors. My parents would take me to the library and let me pick out any book or even cassette book (audio book) . I look back on that very fondly, especially with how retro listening to books on cassette is now  But anyway, I don't know what it was, but something clicked in Grade 10 and I started enjoying the learning part of school à lot more (not the socializing though, ugh, the kids at my school were the ones who made school hell). I didn't have to go to a tutor anymore, but I was a lot more independent and did homework myself. I got to choose a few of my own subjects (not having to any longer go to gym or art class was a moment I was waiting for my entire life). And also I made a few friends, and we would compete with each other to see who could get the highest grades, and we would study and do homework together (nerds tbh) and that made the whole process of learning a lot more fun. Anyway, not to sound like an old grandpa, but I'm 25 now and have an amazing job as a data engineer with an amazing upper-middle class income and comfortable lifestyle. I know my parents were harsh and I felt extremely miserable at times, but now that I'm older I'm really thankful they raised me right. It might sound like your mom is just being mean to you, but trust me, she is doing it because she believes this is what will make you happy in the future. She's not doing it to be mean! You guys gotta think long term and see where you'll be in 10 years. Although I do agree it would do both of you a lot of good if she would listen to your more often and listen to your concerns and your life issues.  For comparison, my 24 year old brother graduated with a degree in Accounting last year, and has an internship as an accountant for one of the Big 4 (accounting firms). My 22 year old is yet to graduate in his Psychology degree but has a co-op/internship working with young autistic children ages 3-5 and is an aspiring child psychologist. All really high paying jobs, none of which would have been possible without math, science or our parents working us like mules!
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Post by SharksFan99 on Apr 17, 2018 15:27:02 GMT 10
Thank you for going into detail about your experiences with school @slowpoke1993. It was an interesting read. It's good to hear all that hard work resulted in you getting a job that you really enjoy. 
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Post by unicornic on Apr 17, 2018 23:03:58 GMT 10
Warning: long post ahead Your guys' mother reminds me of my mother (when it comes to education that is). When I was in early elementary school (like Grades 1-3) she used to pull me by the ear and lock me in the closet and wouldn't let me out until I got my spellings or multiplication tables correct. If I cried too loud or protested, she would take me out, beat me up and throw me back in. I don't envy going back to that! When I came second place in the finals at a regional spelling bee, I almost cried on stage when they were giving the award, I thought I was going to get a beating when I got to home but thankfully she was semi-proud and bought me a couple of video games After that (Grades 4-9) I was shuttled from tuition place to tuition place. When I got home for school it was an additional 2 hours of tutoring on top of that, and I also had the most psychotic homeroom teacher in Grade 4/5 too. He was like my mother in teacher form, it was never ending homework. As a kid I was extremely sad I couldn't go out and play with my friends. This was before the era of PVRs too and I didn't have a VCR either, so I'd miss all the big TV shows the other kids were talking about (like Pokémon/Yu-Gi-Oh!) and felt left out, like I wasn't having a real childhood. I look back on my childhood more fondly, but in reality I remember being mostly a sad and tired kid back then. My parents forced me to read as a kid too, but I didn't mind. I live in Canada so it's impossible to go outside for 5/6 months of the year due to extreme cold, and reading is a nice way to pass the time indoors. My parents would take me to the library and let me pick out any book or even cassette book (audio book) . I look back on that very fondly, especially with how retro listening to books on cassette is now But anyway, I don't know what it was, but something clicked in Grade 10 and I started enjoying the learning part of school à lot more (not the socializing though, ugh, the kids at my school were the ones who made school hell). I didn't have to go to a tutor anymore, but I was a lot more independent and did homework myself. I got to choose a few of my own subjects (not having to any longer go to gym or art class was a moment I was waiting for my entire life). And also I made a few friends, and we would compete with each other to see who could get the highest grades, and we would study and do homework together (nerds tbh) and that made the whole process of learning a lot more fun. Anyway, not to sound like an old grandpa, but I'm 25 now and have an amazing job as a data engineer with an amazing upper-middle class income and comfortable lifestyle. I know my parents were harsh and I felt extremely miserable at times, but now that I'm older I'm really thankful they raised me right. It might sound like your mom is just being mean to you, but trust me, she is doing it because she believes this is what will make you happy in the future. She's not doing it to be mean! You guys gotta think long term and see where you'll be in 10 years. Although I do agree it would do both of you a lot of good if she would listen to your more often and listen to your concerns and your life issues. For comparison, my 24 year old brother graduated with a degree in Accounting last year, and has an internship as an accountant for one of the Big 4 (accounting firms). My 22 year old is yet to graduate in his Psychology degree but has a co-op/internship working with young autistic children ages 3-5 and is an aspiring child psychologist. All really high paying jobs, none of which would have been possible without math, science or our parents working us like mules! This is such an inspiring story 😭👏
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Post by rainbow on Apr 18, 2018 8:18:47 GMT 10
I looked back at stuff I learned in 8th grade and I don't even remember learning it. Like I'd forget how to do a math equation or something, and there is no bell that rings to me no matter how hard I try to remember it. I'm not saying those stuff aren't important, but a lot of teachers make it seem that way because they usually care more about our grades rather than if we actually learned it. Like I actually remember in 9th grade history when we did a vocabulary worksheet, and we got our papers back and on my paper the teacher wrote 100%, but when I was asked to read one of the definitions that I wrote, my teacher said it was wrong, which confused me because it seemed like the teacher didn't actually check to see if it was correct. I mean, what if I was absent while the class was reviewing it and I was just left with that paper the way it was, thinking it was actually 100% correct. You looked back as in you looked back in your mind or you physically looked back? What you learnt then should be built upon in later grades. thinking1 Nonetheless, math is really important as a subject. Almost all high paying white collar jobs require advanced mathematical skills in some way. And even outside of jobs, math makes you smarter in general as it sharpens your problem solving and logical thinking skills. ;) The latter must've been frustrating (well, other than getting a 100 despite being wrong, I bet you wished that happened more often :P). I think that's a problem with your teacher unfortunately. :-S Like when I review stuff that I learned in the past, it's hard for me to remember what it means or how to do it.
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Post by mwalker96 on Apr 18, 2018 11:28:26 GMT 10
That's great @slowpoke. As an elementary school student, my mom was really on me and my brother when it came to homework. I remember she wouldn't let us play video games on a school night because we'll have homework every day. Some homework I dreaded doing like spelling words or writing words 3 times each, but it helped me to be more self-disciplined later on. As a college student, I'm always getting my homework done because all of it is online, and I have a lot of free time in-between classes, so by the time I get home I already have done my homework assignment for the day. My mom isn't nearly as on me about grades like she uses to, but sometimes she would ask me to see my report card. I be like "mom its college, we don't get our grades until the end of the semester". Last semester I actually made the Dean's list which was a huge accomplishment for me since I was never a straight-A student.
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Post by grace on Apr 20, 2018 12:17:47 GMT 10
One thing that I do not like about school is that I have to get up early in the morning T.T SEE WHAT I MEAN?! I FUCKING HATE WAKING UP FOR SCHOOL ITS SO ANNOYING WHEN ITS NOT A SATURDAY SO YOU HAVE TO GO TO A PLACE CALLED SCHOOL WHICH IS HELL AND YOU HAVE TO DO WORK WHEN YOURE TIRED IT SUCKS SO MUCH How many hours do you sleep?
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Post by rainbow on Apr 20, 2018 12:26:40 GMT 10
SEE WHAT I MEAN?! I FUCKING HATE WAKING UP FOR SCHOOL ITS SO ANNOYING WHEN ITS NOT A SATURDAY SO YOU HAVE TO GO TO A PLACE CALLED SCHOOL WHICH IS HELL AND YOU HAVE TO DO WORK WHEN YOURE TIRED IT SUCKS SO MUCH How many hours do you sleep? I only get like 6 hours of sleep. I know I need to change my sleeping schedule.
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Post by prodanny288 on Apr 20, 2018 12:41:30 GMT 10
How many hours do you sleep? I only get like 6 hours of sleep. I know I need to change my sleeping schedule. If you think that’s bad...the most sleep I can fit in on a school night is 4 hours.
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Post by rainbow on Apr 20, 2018 12:43:46 GMT 10
I only get like 6 hours of sleep. I know I need to change my sleeping schedule. If you think that’s bad...the most sleep I can fit in on a school night is 4 hours. Damn, that's it? How come you get so little sleep?
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Post by prodanny288 on Apr 20, 2018 12:48:05 GMT 10
If you think that’s bad...the most sleep I can fit in on a school night is 4 hours. Damn, that's it? How come you get so little sleep? When you have depression like me, sleeping peaceful seems near impossible. I have a lot of shit and overthinking going on at night.
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Post by rainbow on Apr 20, 2018 12:49:27 GMT 10
Damn, that's it? How come you get so little sleep? When you have depression like me, sleeping peaceful seems near impossible. I have a lot of shit and overthinking going on at night. Did you tell your therapist about that?
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Post by prodanny288 on Apr 20, 2018 12:54:16 GMT 10
When you have depression like me, sleeping peaceful seems near impossible. I have a lot of shit and overthinking going on at night. Did you tell your therapist about that? Nope. Completely forgot. I don’t think about my sleep schedule when I talk about my depression. My body has become so adjusted I don’t feel as tired anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2018 19:44:14 GMT 10
I agree i just wanna sleep and lay down all day.
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Post by cooldudez on Apr 22, 2018 4:23:12 GMT 10
I looked back at stuff I learned in 8th grade and I don't even remember learning it. Like I'd forget how to do a math equation or something, and there is no bell that rings to me no matter how hard I try to remember it. I'm not saying those stuff aren't important, but a lot of teachers make it seem that way because they usually care more about our grades rather than if we actually learned it. Like I actually remember in 9th grade history when we did a vocabulary worksheet, and we got our papers back and on my paper the teacher wrote 100%, but when I was asked to read one of the definitions that I wrote, my teacher said it was wrong, which confused me because it seemed like the teacher didn't actually check to see if it was correct. I mean, what if I was absent while the class was reviewing it and I was just left with that paper the way it was, thinking it was actually 100% correct. You looked back as in you looked back in your mind or you physically looked back? What you learnt then should be built upon in later grades.  Nonetheless, math is really important as a subject. Almost all high paying white collar jobs require advanced mathematical skills in some way. And even outside of jobs, math makes you smarter in general as it sharpens your problem solving and logical thinking skills.  The latter must've been frustrating (well, other than getting a 100 despite being wrong, I bet you wished that happened more often ). I think that's a problem with your teacher unfortunately.  i’m not going to remember any of this shit when i’m older...i don’t remember anything i learned last year or the year before in school and it’s stupid..nobody cares about this stuff it’s so boring and stupid Well, I don't know what it is you learnt last year, but trust me when I say you'll never forget the atomic model (unless your school system is in tatters), that is fundamental scientific knowledge. Tbf I didn't care about school before Grade 10 either. That's when I got my first job stocking shelves and being cashier at a grocery store. That's when I realized I wanted to get the hell out of there and into a job that more respects my intelligence. Customer service will eat your soul alive and make you completely lose faith in humanity What do you want to be when you grow older? i’m not going to remember shit about the atomic model or what happened to commodus or any stupid shit in school.it sucks so much it’s pointless and i don’t remember shit from what i learned last year...
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Post by cooldudez on Apr 22, 2018 4:24:12 GMT 10
I agree i just wanna sleep and lay down all day. same it sucks so much ;-;
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