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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2019 12:58:32 GMT 10
Inspired by a discussion in another thread. You know how when you're a kid, you have to ask your parents' permission before going out, and they have to drop you off? When did you stop having to do that [if ever]? I'm mainly curious as to if rural, suburban and urban kids start gaining independence at different ages. For me, as a suburban kid, I was usually allowed to go out without parental supervision when I was 8, as long as I stayed in my neighbourhood. At 10, I was allowed to venture further out afield, but nothing too distant, just the adjacent neighbourhoods to go meet my friends. I later moved to Toronto. At around the time of my 14th birthday, I learnt how to navigate Toronto's subway and bus system. I still asked my parents' permission and for bus fare money whenever going out, but I was sometimes allowed to travel to some relatively far flung places. Later that year, when I was 14 and a half, I hopped on a bike and rode to my friend's house. My mom was furious that I rode my bike on the road, she said it was dangerous. I thought she was exaggerating. But from that point on, generally, I went out as I pleased. I had a job by then so I could pay for bus fares myself, and my bike was useful for travelling within most of downtown Toronto. I would even travel to different cities by train to go to the video game mall, visit old friends, or visit attractions. My parents got used to it, and you could say I was free to travel (within limits any teen would have, obviously). It was very liberating and exhilarating at the time, I felt like a true grown up at the wise age of 14  And what about you? When were you allowed to fly away from the nest, so to speak? 
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Post by rainbow on Aug 12, 2019 12:59:59 GMT 10
Bruh I barely even go out
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Post by smartboi on Aug 12, 2019 14:06:25 GMT 10
Bruh I barely even go out lol no wonder you keep complaining about summer 2019 being boring. For the topic at hand, I started going out on my own when I was around 7 years old. Me and my older sister would just wander around outside for a couple hours. When I moved to Seattle though it wasn't until I was 12 or 13 when I could go do whatever I wanted.
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Post by longaotian on Aug 12, 2019 15:27:00 GMT 10
11. Thats when I could start taking public transport around the city etc by myself.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Aug 12, 2019 15:59:51 GMT 10
Well I was a suburbia kid. Growing up, my Mum was always the most lenient out of my parents and grandparents. Even when I was 10-11, my two cousins and I were never allowed to leave our Nan's sight when we would go down to the lake (which was only a few streets away from our Grandparents house) and ride our scooters. The only time we were ever allowed to go out on our own was when we would kick a soccer ball at the park up the street and even then, I don't remember ever doing that until I was at least 10.
I never had a reason to go out on my own when I was with my Dad, because I didn't know any of the kids in the areas where my Dad lived and for the most part, it was only ever the two of us when I would sleepover at my Dad's house anyway.
So, when I think about it, 10 was the age where I was allowed to go out on my own. It was also the age where my Mum would let me ride my bike on my own in the afternoons for the first time. Sometimes I would be gone for up to an hour and I would ride as far as 4kms away from where I lived. It wasn't until I was 17, which was when I got my red P's, that I was truly able to go out on my own. I had to rely on my parents to drive me to different places when I was in my early-mid teens.
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Post by aja675 on Aug 12, 2019 23:38:04 GMT 10
Bruh I barely even go out That's why I'm really looking forward to my full-time cooking classes, so that I could finally tell tales on the Internet that aren't the same repetitive ones that make people go, "WHAT is THIS SHIT?"
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Post by EyewitnessTV on Aug 16, 2019 23:41:14 GMT 10
Never. The parents were far too overprotective for that to ever happen.  
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Post by al on Aug 17, 2019 1:39:25 GMT 10
I started going for walks on my suburban street by myself at the same age I started using public bathrooms alone, about 7 or 8. If I brought this motorola walkie talkie that was all the rage circa 2002 lol. I really didn’t have much interest in going too far or that often though. My grandmother lives downtown and at her house I wouldn’t go further than the next door neighbor’s, since there tends to be more, ehh characters. By 16 when I got my license I was allowed to drive around town by myself or with a few friends, but I didn’t that often. Honestly I’m almost regressing because I go like, nowhere unless somebody takes me lmao.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Aug 17, 2019 18:37:02 GMT 10
By 16 when I got my license I was allowed to drive around town by myself or with a few friends, but I didn’t that often. Can you get your full drivers licence as early as 16 in the US?
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Post by al on Aug 19, 2019 5:23:44 GMT 10
Can you get your full drivers licence as early as 16 in the US? Yep most states are 16 but their individual laws will affect exactly how old you can be. In my state, you have to complete a driver’s education course if under 18 (and most over do so anyway because it makes your insurance cheaper) and you can begin the class at 15 but you must have had your 16th birthday by the time the class has ended. So like my class began in the middle of June when I was 15 and ended at the end of July after I had turned 16. Then I got my license right after once I had completed my 40 logged hours of driving with a parent. Most states require a learner’s permit but mine does not. Some states like New York and New Jersey are more strict and their age is 17, whereas North Dakota is 15 due to the need for young farm help. Honestly they seem to be increasing the difficulty all the time across the country.
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Post by Lyndialy on Aug 20, 2019 5:27:23 GMT 10
I was allowed to go out independently when I turned 13, however, I have a check in time that I must comply.
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Post by mwalker96 on Aug 26, 2019 9:50:31 GMT 10
I started going for walks on my suburban street by myself at the same age I started using public bathrooms alone, about 7 or 8. If I brought this motorola walkie talkie that was all the rage circa 2002 lol. I really didn’t have much interest in going too far or that often though. My grandmother lives downtown and at her house I wouldn’t go further than the next door neighbor’s, since there tends to be more, ehh characters. By 16 when I got my license I was allowed to drive around town by myself or with a few friends, but I didn’t that often. Honestly I’m almost regressing because I go like, nowhere unless somebody takes me lmao. Same, i don't even have my license yet despite being 23. No one was able to teach me how to drive due to my mom back pains, and my other family members living outside my immediate area.
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Post by al on Aug 26, 2019 10:13:48 GMT 10
Same, i don't even have my license yet despite being 23. No one was able to teach me how to drive due to my mom back pains, and my other family members living outside my immediate area. Yeah it's not unusual anymore to not have your license in your twenties. I've even seen waiting described as a Gen Z trait due to Uber, increasingly heavy traffic, etc. I embarrassingly lack experience for having mine for as long as I have. Driving gives me a lot of anxiety tbh, as badly as I wish it didn't.
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Post by mwalker96 on Aug 26, 2019 10:26:54 GMT 10
Same, i don't even have my license yet despite being 23. No one was able to teach me how to drive due to my mom back pains, and my other family members living outside my immediate area. Yeah it's not unusual anymore to not have your license in your twenties. I've even seen waiting described as a Gen Z trait due to Uber, increasingly heavy traffic, etc. I embarrassingly lack experience for having mine for as long as I have. Driving gives me a lot of anxiety tbh, as badly as I wish it didn't. Yeah i know in the northeast is common to wait until you become an adult to start driving but here in the south were public transportation is pretty scarce it's hard to go without a car especially where I live where there is no uber. Thankfully i will be with my anut and uncle and they will teach me how to drive and they have uber where they live in (Jacksonville Florida).
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Post by al on Aug 26, 2019 10:37:09 GMT 10
Yeah i know in the northeast is common to wait until you become an adult to start driving but here in the south were public transportation is pretty scarce it's hard to go without a car especially where I live where there is no uber. Thankfully i will be with my can't and uncle and they will teach me how to drive and they have uber where they live in (Jacksonville Florida). Hopefully you guys can find some nice calm places to practice in Jax since much of Florida is nuts to drive in lol.
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