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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 28, 2017 17:27:47 GMT 10
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Post by SharksFan99 on Dec 28, 2017 18:06:37 GMT 10
There is nothing wrong with crying, regardless of your gender. The idea of it being "unmanly" is just a ridiculous stereotype based on archaic, gender ideals which no longer have any relevancy. Crying in public does not make you weak or any less of a man. It makes you more of a better person than the people who insult and pick on others, such as the kids at your school. I know it would be hard to ignore their comments (especially given the circumstances), but it's the best thing you can do. Bullies crave attention and if they know that you are paying attention to what they are saying, they are only likely to continue doing it. It's important to remember that there are people who care for you. It can be easy to forget that when you receive comments like that from other people. Those kids at your school are a small minority and their comments wouldn't be anything personal. They're the type of people who pick on people, just for the sake of it. Lastly, it's important to stay true to yourself. There is no normal way in how to "act" or behave in public. We are all individuals and we all have our own unique traits/values. If you are emotional and feel like crying, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Anyway, it's good to hear from you again. Take care.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 1:12:53 GMT 10
Welcome back, Danny!
I'm a girl and I don't think it's unmanly to cry at all. I agree with @sharksfan99 you should just ignore them honestly. Crying in front of everyone doesn't mean you are weak, it just means you need to cry. Crying does not make you any less of a man than someone who doesn't cry. It's a natural thing humans do, it's not a sign of weakness.
If you ever want to talk to me about this, you can text me anytime.
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Post by unicornic on Dec 29, 2017 1:38:16 GMT 10
Absolutely not. Fuxck anyone who thinks you’re weak for that. You are strong for breaking the stereotype that men don’t cry and I really appreciate that as crying is a natural and healthy thing we all do. I’m really sorry you’re going through a lot right now. We are all here to help you any time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 1:41:24 GMT 10
Let it all out man. I cry when my football team wins. Real men do cry.
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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 29, 2017 2:08:41 GMT 10
There is nothing wrong with crying, regardless of your gender. The idea of it being "unmanly" is just a ridiculous stereotype based on archaic, gender ideals which no longer have any relevancy. Crying in public does not make you weak or any less of a man. It makes you more of a better person than the people who insult and pick on others, such as the kids at your school. I know it would be hard to ignore their comments (especially given the circumstances), but it's the best thing you can do. Bullies crave attention and if they know that you are paying attention to what they are saying, they are only likely to continue doing it. It's important to remember that there are people who care for you. It can be easy to forget that when you receive comments like that from other people. Those kids at your school are a small minority and their comments wouldn't be anything personal. They're the type of people who pick on people, just for the sake of it. Lastly, it's important to stay true to yourself. There is no normal way in how to "act" or behave in public. We are all individuals and we all have our own unique traits/values. If you are emotional and feel like crying, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Anyway, it's good to hear from you again. Take care. I try my hardest to ignore them, but their words stick to me no matter how hard I try to let it go, and I get the impression that must be how I come off to everyone else. Btw, thank you. My family is still having problems sadly...
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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 29, 2017 2:11:56 GMT 10
Absolutely not. Fuxck anyone who thinks you’re weak for that. You are strong for breaking the stereotype that men don’t cry and I really appreciate that as crying is a natural and healthy thing we all do.I’m really sorry you’re going through a lot right now. We are all here to help you any time. Huh, not surprising. It felt pretty good to let it out for once.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 2:16:57 GMT 10
There is nothing wrong with crying, regardless of your gender. The idea of it being "unmanly" is just a ridiculous stereotype based on archaic, gender ideals which no longer have any relevancy. Crying in public does not make you weak or any less of a man. It makes you more of a better person than the people who insult and pick on others, such as the kids at your school. I know it would be hard to ignore their comments (especially given the circumstances), but it's the best thing you can do. Bullies crave attention and if they know that you are paying attention to what they are saying, they are only likely to continue doing it. It's important to remember that there are people who care for you. It can be easy to forget that when you receive comments like that from other people. Those kids at your school are a small minority and their comments wouldn't be anything personal. They're the type of people who pick on people, just for the sake of it. Lastly, it's important to stay true to yourself. There is no normal way in how to "act" or behave in public. We are all individuals and we all have our own unique traits/values. If you are emotional and feel like crying, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Anyway, it's good to hear from you again. :) Take care. I try my hardest to ignore them, but their words stick to me no matter how hard I try to let it go, and I get the impression that must be how I come off to everyone else. Btw, thank you. My family is still having problems sadly... That's just what you think, it's not reality. And even if it were the reality it would be dumb as hell for everyone in your school to think of you as weak just because you are a male crying and especially if it's for an actual good reason.
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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 29, 2017 2:23:44 GMT 10
I try my hardest to ignore them, but their words stick to me no matter how hard I try to let it go, and I get the impression that must be how I come off to everyone else. Btw, thank you. My family is still having problems sadly... That's just what you think, it's not reality. And even if it were the reality it would be dumb as hell for everyone in your school to think of you as weak just because you are a male crying and especially if it's for an actual good reason. You’re right, but I still feel like I’m weak for not fitting the male standards that almost every other guy in my school has.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 2:30:04 GMT 10
That's just what you think, it's not reality. And even if it were the reality it would be dumb as hell for everyone in your school to think of you as weak just because you are a male crying and especially if it's for an actual good reason. You’re right, but I still feel like I’m weak for not fitting the male standards that almost every other guy in my school has. That doesn't make you weak, that just makes you different. Hell, I'm a girl yet don't even completely fit in with the female standards, doesn't make me any less of a girl than those who follow all of it. I'm still a girl regardless. I feel as if you care too much about what others think. They probably aren't thinking of you like the way you think they are, and like I said before, it would be dumb as hell for them to even think that way. You are an emotional guy and there isn't anything wrong with that. Don't try and fit in with what society expects of you.
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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 29, 2017 2:43:08 GMT 10
You’re right, but I still feel like I’m weak for not fitting the male standards that almost every other guy in my school has. That doesn't make you weak, that just makes you different. Hell, I'm a girl yet don't even completely fit in with the female standards, doesn't make me any less of a girl than those who follow all of it. I'm still a girl regardless. I feel as if you care too much about what others think. They probably aren't thinking of you like the way you think they are, and like I said before, it would be dumb as hell for them to even think that way. You are an emotional guy and there isn't anything wrong with that. Don't try and fit in with what society expects of you. I know that I’m male, but I feel like a weak one for expressing my sadness for the problems going on in my family in front of everyone. The only person I don’t mind crying in front of is my dad because he hasn’t judged me once and he’s always there to give me help when I need it. I’ll feel like a weak guy crying in front of anyone else even if they don’t think I’m unmanly.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 3:04:11 GMT 10
That doesn't make you weak, that just makes you different. Hell, I'm a girl yet don't even completely fit in with the female standards, doesn't make me any less of a girl than those who follow all of it. I'm still a girl regardless. I feel as if you care too much about what others think. They probably aren't thinking of you like the way you think they are, and like I said before, it would be dumb as hell for them to even think that way. You are an emotional guy and there isn't anything wrong with that. Don't try and fit in with what society expects of you. I know that I’m male, but I feel like a weak one for expressing my sadness for the problems going on in my family in front of everyone. The only person I don’t mind crying in front of is my dad because he hasn’t judged me once and he’s always there to give me help when I need it. I’ll feel like a weak guy crying in front of anyone else even if they don’t think I’m unmanly. So it's not really about what others think, it's just that you're afraid to appear less like a man by crying in front of everyone, even though you had a good reason for it. You're basically doing what I just told you not to do in my last post that I responded to you. You're letting society define who you are and you're letting the gender stereotypes get to you. Society has brainwashed you into thinking that crying as a male is unmanly, which is far from the truth. You most likely feel this way because you aren't used to crying in front of everyone like that, as you mentioned you only feel comfortable crying in front of your dad. You always hide in your emotions and you've gotten used to that. Just because you hide in your feelings, doesn't mean you are strong. I'm not saying that you said this or anything, I'm just letting you know that's not the case. It's just false gender stereotypes, it's not the truth. Of course, expressing your feelings is easier said than done, but I'm just trying to let you know that crying is something everyone does. Like unicornic said it's healthy and natural to cry.
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Post by prodanny288 on Dec 29, 2017 3:17:08 GMT 10
I know that I’m male, but I feel like a weak one for expressing my sadness for the problems going on in my family in front of everyone. The only person I don’t mind crying in front of is my dad because he hasn’t judged me once and he’s always there to give me help when I need it. I’ll feel like a weak guy crying in front of anyone else even if they don’t think I’m unmanly. So it's not really about what others think, it's just that you're afraid to appear less like a man by crying in front of everyone, even though you had a good reason for it. You're basically doing what I just told you not to do in my last post that I responded to you. You're letting society define who you are and you're letting the gender stereotypes get to you. Society has brainwashed you into thinking that crying as a male is unmanly, which is far from the truth. You most likely feel this way because you aren't used to crying in front of everyone like that, as you mentioned you only feel comfortable crying in front of your dad. You always hide in your emotions and you've gotten used to that. Just because you hide in your feelings, doesn't mean you are strong. I'm not saying that you said this or anything, I'm just letting you know that's not the case. It's just false gender stereotypes, it's not the truth. Of course, expressing your feelings is easier said than done, but I'm just trying to let you know that crying is something everyone does. Like unicornic said it's healthy and natural to cry. Basically yes, but when I cried I had a bad feeling I was being looked down upon by many people. You’re right, I haven’t cried like this in front of anyone before, but I also feel that way because of what others have said to me at school. Now I have a feeling I’ll be seen as unmanly when I go back, probably as the most emotional guy in the school.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 3:25:19 GMT 10
So it's not really about what others think, it's just that you're afraid to appear less like a man by crying in front of everyone, even though you had a good reason for it. You're basically doing what I just told you not to do in my last post that I responded to you. You're letting society define who you are and you're letting the gender stereotypes get to you. Society has brainwashed you into thinking that crying as a male is unmanly, which is far from the truth. You most likely feel this way because you aren't used to crying in front of everyone like that, as you mentioned you only feel comfortable crying in front of your dad. You always hide in your emotions and you've gotten used to that. Just because you hide in your feelings, doesn't mean you are strong. I'm not saying that you said this or anything, I'm just letting you know that's not the case. It's just false gender stereotypes, it's not the truth. Of course, expressing your feelings is easier said than done, but I'm just trying to let you know that crying is something everyone does. Like unicornic said it's healthy and natural to cry. Basically yes, but when I cried I had a bad feeling I was being looked down upon by many people. You’re right, I haven’t cried like this in front of anyone before, but I also feel that way because of what others have said to me at school. Now I have a feeling I’ll be seen as unmanly when I go back, probably as the most emotional guy in the school. See, this is proof that you care too much about what others think. It's highly unlikely they would even care anyway. It was just one moment of you crying. It would be dumb as hell for them to judge you just for crying once. In fact, it would honestly be dumb as hell too for them to judge you for crying, no matter how many times it is. Probably less than half of the school saw you crying, so it's most likely not even as big of a deal as you make it out to be.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Dec 29, 2017 7:47:30 GMT 10
Basically yes, but when I cried I had a bad feeling I was being looked down upon by many people. You’re right, I haven’t cried like this in front of anyone before, but I also feel that way because of what others have said to me at school. Now I have a feeling I’ll be seen as unmanly when I go back, probably as the most emotional guy in the school. Honestly, the kids at your school are likely to have completely forgotten about it. They won't view you as being unmanly. As rainbow said, being emotional and crying is normal.
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