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Post by pink.panda_v3 on Dec 29, 2017 9:23:32 GMT 10
My answer to this thread is no, it's not unmanly to cry. Crying is a stress reliever because it gets rid of toxins inside your body, so let it all out.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Dec 29, 2017 9:34:26 GMT 10
My answer to this thread is no, it's not unmanly to cry. Crying is a stress reliever because it gets rid of toxins inside your body, so let it all out. I agree. There is nothing wrong with crying or being emotional at all.
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Post by rainbow on Dec 29, 2017 12:42:06 GMT 10
My answer to this thread is no, it's not unmanly to cry. Crying is a stress reliever because it gets rid of toxins inside your body, so let it all out. I agree. I've actually read about this last year, and from my own personal experience, it does make me feel a lot better. I've also read that it's not healthy to hide your emotions, which is something I also agree with.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2018 18:00:45 GMT 10
No it's not unmanly. Hope you make it through the rough spot buddy.  I have a friend with severe depression. He used to wake me up at 1 in the morning crying on the phone because his dad would tell him he wish he was never born, and he also thought he was ugly and no one would ever love him etc. If I'm being honest, in my sleep deprived state, I did secretly wish he would STFU and "man up". But I sat through it. Eventually he stopped being too personal with me (probably read my body language), and that made me feel really guilty. I borrowed a book from the library about how to deal with loved ones who have depression, and it completely changed my attitude towards the whole thing. In our world, we always talk about how people who commit suicide are "selfish" or how people with depression should just "snap out of it" or ask them "why are being so difficult?". The average person has such a poor understanding of mental health. If people had the knowledge of what people with depression go through and how to give them proper support, I think the world would be a significantly better place. They don't teach you "how to talk to loved ones with depression" at school, you have to learn that on your own. I think we should change that. It's weird because I had clinical depression and social anxiety before, but I still had no idea how to talk to someone with depression. It's truly a skill of its own, I guess that's why we pay therapists and school counsellors $100K+. But still, everyone should know the basics.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Jan 2, 2018 10:48:46 GMT 10
In our world, we always talk about how people who commit suicide are "selfish" or how people with depression should just "snap out of it" or ask them "why are being so difficult?". The average person has such a poor understanding of mental health. If people had the knowledge of what people with depression go through and how to give them proper support, I think the world would be a significantly better place. They don't teach you "how to talk to loved ones with depression" at school, you have to learn that on your own. I think we should change that. It's weird because I had clinical depression and social anxiety before, but I still had no idea how to talk to someone with depression. It's truly a skill of its own, I guess that's why we pay therapists and school counsellors $100K+. But still, everyone should know the basics. You're absolutely right. More needs to be done to improve the general population's understanding of mental health. I think a lot of people still subconsciously follow stereotypical gender roles, such as men needing to suppress their emotions and be "tough". There seems to be an attitude among many that mental health is a hindrance, not something that needs to be addressed.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2018 11:05:39 GMT 10
I'm very sorry to hear about your issues and feelings. I hope that things will go better for you (and they should).
But back to the main question you asked, no, it is not unmanly to cry at all.
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Post by prodanny288 on Jan 2, 2018 11:55:19 GMT 10
No it's not unmanly. Hope you make it through the rough spot buddy. I have a friend with severe depression. He used to wake me up at 1 in the morning crying on the phone because his dad would tell him he wish he was never born, and he also thought he was ugly and no one would ever love him etc. If I'm being honest, in my sleep deprived state, I did secretly wish he would STFU and "man up". But I sat through it. Eventually he stopped being too personal with me (probably read my body language), and that made me feel really guilty. I borrowed a book from the library about how to deal with loved ones who have depression, and it completely changed my attitude towards the whole thing. In our world, we always talk about how people who commit suicide are "selfish" or how people with depression should just "snap out of it" or ask them "why are being so difficult?". The average person has such a poor understanding of mental health. If people had the knowledge of what people with depression go through and how to give them proper support, I think the world would be a significantly better place. They don't teach you "how to talk to loved ones with depression" at school, you have to learn that on your own. I think we should change that. It's weird because I had clinical depression and social anxiety before, but I still had no idea how to talk to someone with depression. It's truly a skill of its own, I guess that's why we pay therapists and school counsellors $100K+. But still, everyone should know the basics. I’ve had depression since 2012 when I got severely bullied constantly. I received racist remarks, got called an ugly Asian, was told to go back to where I came from. During my freshmen year of HS I got called a “chink” in the boys locker room. I felt insecure and it still stays with me today. Even today I still get this kind of hate. I’ve had plenty of suicidal thoughts, but my mom just thinks I’m doing it for attention, but my dad is caring and understands me. He’s argued with my mom that I really need help, but she refuses to accept so. Since my grandfathers passing, my little brother has been depressed too. My dad made an appointment for him to check if he has depression, but my mother cancelled it, and my dad got mad and starting yelling at my mom. He slept on the couch and ignored my mother. He told us she’s being disrespectful to her own kids and he’s tired of it, and he may think about a divorce.
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Post by grace on Jan 7, 2018 10:13:34 GMT 10
No. Don't worry about them. You cry because you held it for too long. Not because you are weak.
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Post by prodanny288 on Jan 7, 2018 10:18:25 GMT 10
No. Don't worry about them. You cry because you held it for too long. Not because you are weak. I felt weak when I couldn’t hold it any longer and started bursting into tears. I thought I was strong enough to remain stoic. Turns out I’m not.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Jan 7, 2018 23:12:35 GMT 10
No. Don't worry about them. You cry because you held it for too long. Not because you are weak. I felt weak when I couldn’t hold it any longer and started bursting into tears. I thought I was strong enough to remain stoic. Turns out I’m not. Being emotional isn't a bad thing. Staying true to your feelings is more important than trying to remain stoic.
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Post by fanofdorks on Jan 11, 2018 5:08:15 GMT 10
You're only human and you have feelings like anyone else.
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Post by prodanny288 on Mar 4, 2018 2:06:15 GMT 10
2 days ago I was crying in my room with no shame whatsoever. It was a huge relief to just let it out. But I was alone so no one was there to judge. :S
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Post by rainbow on Mar 4, 2018 2:09:07 GMT 10
2 days ago I was crying in my room with no shame whatsoever. It was a huge relief to just let it out. But I was alone so no one was there to judge. :S At least you didn't just hold back your tears. It's not healthy to be stoic.
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Post by prodanny288 on Mar 4, 2018 2:15:57 GMT 10
2 days ago I was crying in my room with no shame whatsoever. It was a huge relief to just let it out. But I was alone so no one was there to judge. :S At least you didn't just hold back your tears. It's not healthy to be stoic. That’s what everyone tells me but I have a bad habit of doing so. When I’m sad about something I try to get my mind off of it instead of letting it all out.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2018 3:00:50 GMT 10
No it isn't. In my book a man who cries is more of a man than he who doesn't because he is man enough to show his feelings.
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