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Post by rainbow on Mar 12, 2022 10:50:51 GMT 10
What do you think of the notion that you owe your parents nothing?
I slightly disagree. The only reason I slightly disagree is because if your parents obviously didn't care about you while raising you and didn't treat you right, then you don't owe them anything IMO. But if they actually made sure to care for you, worked hard to support you financially and gave you a lot of love and affection, then I do think you at least owe them a simple "Thank you."
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on Mar 12, 2022 11:36:57 GMT 10
slightly agree. i don’t think you need to live up to all of your parents expectations especially if it’s something that you don’t want or something that’s not realistic. i think that’s what people mean when they say that
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Post by 10slover on Mar 12, 2022 12:38:19 GMT 10
Generally disagree unless they're abusive or wealthier than you
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Post by 10slover on Mar 12, 2022 12:39:12 GMT 10
Generally disagree unless they're abusive or wealthier than you Don't mean you have to constantly try to appease them, of course
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Post by al on Mar 14, 2022 9:16:50 GMT 10
Slightly agree: I think it depends on how they treat you. Feeding and clothing you is their bare minimum job until your late teens and I think parents who use that to leverage against their kids are being unfair. Beyond that, why have kids if you're gonna act like they owe you something later in life? Kids can't ask to be brought into the world. Parents also need to remember that their kids aren't them.
Ideally, you should at least try to respect your parents. As you get older, you start to see where they put in extra effort, and you're going to have a better relationship by being appreciative towards it. Family dynamics are complicated though. Sometimes bad things outweigh the good and you have to navigate the situation as best as possible.
I'm increasingly feeling resentful towards transactional relationships. Of course people get unhappy when the balance is off and they feel taken advantage of, but keeping tabs on how much a person does or what they owe can be a special type of miserable. Still, as the child it's probably appropriate to "return the favor" based on how you feel your relationship has gone. It doesn't have to be a mirror; if they were good to you then you don't have to give return the time or money but you can be kind and respectful, if they were shitty you don't have to be shitty back but you don't have to forget.
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Post by nightmarefarm on Jun 5, 2022 23:12:45 GMT 10
Slight disagree as long as they aren't abusive.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 5, 2022 23:47:43 GMT 10
Your parents CHOSE to fornicate together without the usage of birth control so generally up until high school graduation they should be responsible for you, you did not choose to be born and it's their responsibility to nurture you your first 18 years of life. If your parents are abusive or treat you like crap then you don't owe them anything, no form of authority should go unquestioned. If they choose to raise you in a good environment and maintain a loving relationship, I recommend you respect that and run with it going into adulthood. If you're 18+ and you're still living with your parents then I would say you owe them due respect and stay on their good side until you can (or choose to) become independent.
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