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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on Feb 5, 2022 12:41:55 GMT 10
Adding to what I said, gender dysphoria is something I’ve experienced all my life. I was a very effeminate kid, very small for a boy, had feminine mannerisms, had a lot of female friends, sometimes people would call me a girl as an insult. Around the time I started puberty, I started getting jealous of my female friends because they were able to get boyfriends easily and I wasn’t. I’ve never felt attracted to gay men, only to straight men, so I’ve always felt very confused about myself. However, I’m not going to transition because in my mind it’s pointless. I’ll never truly be a woman either way because you can’t change your sex, and I don’t want to go through the process of medical transition. So do I identify as trans just because I have gender dysphoria? No, being trans is something you do not something you are. I’ve come to the point where I’m fine with being male, because what else am I gonna do about it? I think our society needs to start being more accepting of gender non conformity and get rid of the harmful gender stereotypes, and maybe there will be less people transitioning.
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Post by wingoffaith on Apr 16, 2022 3:12:35 GMT 10
No, there would be if people were also naturally born with something other than a penis and a vagina or could be born with something other than male or female chromosomes, but that's not the case. I do believe people can feel out of place in their bodies however.
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 5:18:25 GMT 10
I believe there’s multiple ways of expressing your gender and now people have different terminologies to name they’re gender and what pronouns they prefer to be used and called by.
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 5:22:08 GMT 10
Adding to what I said, gender dysphoria is something I’ve experienced all my life. I was a very effeminate kid, very small for a boy, had feminine mannerisms, had a lot of female friends, sometimes people would call me a girl as an insult. Around the time I started puberty, I started getting jealous of my female friends because they were able to get boyfriends easily and I wasn’t. I’ve never felt attracted to gay men, only to straight men, so I’ve always felt very confused about myself. However, I’m not going to transition because in my mind it’s pointless. I’ll never truly be a woman either way because you can’t change your sex, and I don’t want to go through the process of medical transition. So do I identify as trans just because I have gender dysphoria? No, being trans is something you do not something you are. I’ve come to the point where I’m fine with being male, because what else am I gonna do about it? I think our society needs to start being more accepting of gender non conformity and get rid of the harmful gender stereotypes, and maybe there will be less people transitioning. The way I see it being trans is something you are born as regardless of who your attracted to. There’s people who identify as cross dressers who only dress up feminine for the attention of men because they like that aspect of feminist but still go by he/him pronouns and they themselves just live as men in they’re day to day lives. Getting rid of sexism isn’t going to make transgender people not exist lol But I agree with your gender non-conformity and androgyny is not well accepted by society especially if you are a trans person who doesn’t pass by society standards.
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on May 27, 2022 5:38:23 GMT 10
Adding to what I said, gender dysphoria is something I’ve experienced all my life. I was a very effeminate kid, very small for a boy, had feminine mannerisms, had a lot of female friends, sometimes people would call me a girl as an insult. Around the time I started puberty, I started getting jealous of my female friends because they were able to get boyfriends easily and I wasn’t. I’ve never felt attracted to gay men, only to straight men, so I’ve always felt very confused about myself. However, I’m not going to transition because in my mind it’s pointless. I’ll never truly be a woman either way because you can’t change your sex, and I don’t want to go through the process of medical transition. So do I identify as trans just because I have gender dysphoria? No, being trans is something you do not something you are. I’ve come to the point where I’m fine with being male, because what else am I gonna do about it? I think our society needs to start being more accepting of gender non conformity and get rid of the harmful gender stereotypes, and maybe there will be less people transitioning. The way I see it being trans is something you are born as regardless of who your attracted to. There’s people who identify as cross dressers who only dress up feminine for the attention of men because they like that aspect of feminist but still go by he/him pronouns and they themselves just live as men in they’re day to day lives. Getting rid of sexism isn’t going to make transgender people not exist lol i definitely don’t think it’ll make them not exist, my point is a lot of the conservatives who don’t like trans people don’t make sense because they don’t want people transitioning but they at the same time don’t want people being gender non-conforming as their assigned sex. also, there are different types of trans people and for some it is a fetish. most crossdressers, particularly the ones who do it in secret, are straight
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 5:45:08 GMT 10
The way I see it being trans is something you are born as regardless of who your attracted to. There’s people who identify as cross dressers who only dress up feminine for the attention of men because they like that aspect of feminist but still go by he/him pronouns and they themselves just live as men in they’re day to day lives. Getting rid of sexism isn’t going to make transgender people not exist lol i definitely don’t think it’ll make them not exist, my point is a lot of the conservatives who don’t like trans people don’t make sense because they don’t want people transitioning but they at the same time don’t want people being gender non-conforming as their assigned sex. also, there are different types of trans people and for some it is a fetish I agree with that. Another point I wanna make is that there is a double standard for transgender people to transition early to look as they’re internal gender and not seek these surgeries later in life like how society has come to associate trans people nowadays for. And that’s what republicans and right wing conservatives are generally against because they’re logic is that a trans person is confused and doesn’t know themselves very well so in they’re heads they just wanna protect them from they’re selves. That’s why they find and make so much propaganda from de-transitioners who are very vocal against they trans community in general who ironically even themselves from other accounts still suffer from gender dysphoria
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on May 27, 2022 5:58:58 GMT 10
i definitely don’t think it’ll make them not exist, my point is a lot of the conservatives who don’t like trans people don’t make sense because they don’t want people transitioning but they at the same time don’t want people being gender non-conforming as their assigned sex. also, there are different types of trans people and for some it is a fetish I agree with that. Another point I wanna make is that there is a double standard for transgender people to transition early to look as they’re internal gender and not seek these surgeries later in life like how society has come to associate trans people nowadays for. And that’s what republicans and right wing conservatives are generally against because they’re logic is that a trans person is confused and doesn’t know themselves very well so in they’re heads they just wanna protect them from they’re selves. That’s why they find and make so much propaganda from de-transitioners who are very vocal against they trans community in general who ironically even themselves from other accounts still suffer from gender dysphoria yea i definitely agree with that. i also don’t like a lot of the rhetoric that radical feminists spread in regards to trans people. i don’t agree with them or the trans activists, i think there needs to be some middle ground. i myself have even considered transitioning because i have dysphoria like i said in my previous post and it will never go away. but i had to ask myself, do i really feel like being a slave to the medical system my entire life and am i really going to be happy with that decision in the long run? i don’t know. what i do feel like needs to happen is the distinction between the dysphoric type of trans people and the fetishists. because what happens is people then start being homophobic when the fetishists are doing something wrong because they assume any male wearing a dress is gay when in reality these are mostly straight males. and on top of that, it makes it harder for the non-fetishist types
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 6:08:17 GMT 10
I agree with that. Another point I wanna make is that there is a double standard for transgender people to transition early to look as they’re internal gender and not seek these surgeries later in life like how society has come to associate trans people nowadays for. And that’s what republicans and right wing conservatives are generally against because they’re logic is that a trans person is confused and doesn’t know themselves very well so in they’re heads they just wanna protect them from they’re selves. That’s why they find and make so much propaganda from de-transitioners who are very vocal against they trans community in general who ironically even themselves from other accounts still suffer from gender dysphoria yea i definitely agree with that. i also don’t like a lot of the rhetoric that radical feminists spread in regards to trans people. i don’t agree with them or the trans activists, i think there needs to be some middle ground. i myself have even considered transitioning because i have dysphoria like i said in my previous post and it will never go away. but i had to ask myself, do i really feel like being a slave to the medical system my entire life and am i really going to be happy with that decision in the long run? i don’t know. what i do feel like needs to happen is the distinction between the dysphoric type of trans people and the fetishists. because what happens is people then start being homophobic when the fetishists doing something wrong because they assume any male wearing a dress is gay when in reality these are mostly straight males. and on top of that, it makes it harder for the non-fetishist types Well that’s for you to decide, nobody can say when they’re done transitioning other then yourself, for example there’s trans women who are never satisfied with they’re bodies and always try to get plastic surgery as soon as possible while there’s trans women who have reached a point where they are satisfied with themselves and either stopped or just present as women without all the surgeries or hormone treatment. Are you doing this for you so you can feel more comfortable in your own body or because you feel like you might actually gain something. The problem with trans exclusionists is that a lot of them assume the latter because they see transgender people as someone who will undoubtedly lead a sad life but what they fail to acknowledge is gender euphoria when trans people who are living authentic as themselves and feel content and comfortable with they’re lives. Also not all trans women are straight many of them aren’t even into men, there’s plenty of them who are lesbian. So it’s not delusional gay men as the media likes to paint it as. I do agree that there is pressure in the trans community to pass successfully and never be “clocked” as some put it out but if your secure in yourself as I have seen other trans women be then you don’t have much to worry about. Also I think “passing” as cis isn’t even about being the most beautiful or whatever but just about safety because gender non-conformity is very scrutinized
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on May 27, 2022 6:10:17 GMT 10
yea i definitely agree with that. i also don’t like a lot of the rhetoric that radical feminists spread in regards to trans people. i don’t agree with them or the trans activists, i think there needs to be some middle ground. i myself have even considered transitioning because i have dysphoria like i said in my previous post and it will never go away. but i had to ask myself, do i really feel like being a slave to the medical system my entire life and am i really going to be happy with that decision in the long run? i don’t know. what i do feel like needs to happen is the distinction between the dysphoric type of trans people and the fetishists. because what happens is people then start being homophobic when the fetishists doing something wrong because they assume any male wearing a dress is gay when in reality these are mostly straight males. and on top of that, it makes it harder for the non-fetishist types Well that’s for you to decide, nobody can say when they’re done transitioning other then yourself, for example there’s trans women who are never satisfied with they’re bodies and always try to get plastic surgery as soon as possible while there’s trans women who have reached a point where they are satisfied with themselves and either stopped or just present as women without all the surgeries or hormone treatment. Are you doing this for you so you can feel more comfortable in your own body or because you feel like you might actually gain something. The problem with trans exclusionists is that a lot of them assume the latter because they see transgender people as someone who will undoubtedly lead a sad life but what they fail to acknowledge is gender euphoria when trans people who are living authentic as themselves and feel content and comfortable with they’re lives. Also not all trans women are straight many of them aren’t even into men, there’s plenty of them who are lesbian. So it’s not delusional gay men as the media likes to paint it as. oh yea that’s what i’m saying, when i say most transwomen are “straight” i’m referring to their birth sex. so most transwomen identify as lesbians. and, these tend to be the fetishists, though i’m not saying all are
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 6:14:25 GMT 10
Well that’s for you to decide, nobody can say when they’re done transitioning other then yourself, for example there’s trans women who are never satisfied with they’re bodies and always try to get plastic surgery as soon as possible while there’s trans women who have reached a point where they are satisfied with themselves and either stopped or just present as women without all the surgeries or hormone treatment. Are you doing this for you so you can feel more comfortable in your own body or because you feel like you might actually gain something. The problem with trans exclusionists is that a lot of them assume the latter because they see transgender people as someone who will undoubtedly lead a sad life but what they fail to acknowledge is gender euphoria when trans people who are living authentic as themselves and feel content and comfortable with they’re lives. Also not all trans women are straight many of them aren’t even into men, there’s plenty of them who are lesbian. So it’s not delusional gay men as the media likes to paint it as. oh yea that’s what i’m saying, when i say most transwomen are “straight” i’m referring to their birth sex. so most transwomen identify as lesbians. and, these tend to be the fetishists, though i’m not saying all are Idk what the exact percentage of trans women being lesbian or straight or even bisexual is since there is no definitive census but lesbian trans women aren’t fetishists. That just paints a wrong look at it. There’s cis men who cross dress, I think that’s what you mean but as long as they’re going about it in a consensual way I don’t really see the shame in it. The problem with a lot of them is a good majority of them are pretty transphobic and feet into the narrative that being trans is just a fetish
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Post by al on May 27, 2022 6:47:12 GMT 10
When you get diving into the community online, especially the older in age the people get, the pattern of autogynephilia in TWs starts getting harder to ignore. My theory is that more males who in the past would have been private cross dressers are choosing to transition as it becomes more acceptable. The question remains, are they doing this truly to ease their dysphoria, or is their sense of euphoria a result of sexual satisfaction? Perhaps in an ideal world we could say that this is no one else's business, but we do not live in a vacuum so unfortunately others are being affected.
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on May 27, 2022 6:51:22 GMT 10
When you get diving into the community online, especially the older in age the people get, the pattern of autogynephilia in TWs starts getting harder to ignore. My theory is that more males who in the past would have been private cross dressers are choosing to transition as it becomes more acceptable. The question remains, are they doing this truly to ease their dysphoria, or is their sense of euphoria a result of sexual satisfaction? Perhaps in an ideal world we could say that this is no one else's business, but we do not live in a vacuum so unfortunately others are being affected. yuppp, autogynephilia is real and it’s so obvious when you go on trans subs like r/egg_irl
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 7:57:43 GMT 10
When you get diving into the community online, especially the older in age the people get, the pattern of autogynephilia in TWs starts getting harder to ignore. My theory is that more males who in the past would have been private cross dressers are choosing to transition as it becomes more acceptable. The question remains, are they doing this truly to ease their dysphoria, or is their sense of euphoria a result of sexual satisfaction? Perhaps in an ideal world we could say that this is no one else's business, but we do not live in a vacuum so unfortunately others are being affected. Based on what I read on “autogynphila” is just sounds like the demonization of a trans woman’s sexuality How is it any different then how the sexual fantasies of cis people in different forms ?
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on May 27, 2022 8:59:28 GMT 10
When you get diving into the community online, especially the older in age the people get, the pattern of autogynephilia in TWs starts getting harder to ignore. My theory is that more males who in the past would have been private cross dressers are choosing to transition as it becomes more acceptable. The question remains, are they doing this truly to ease their dysphoria, or is their sense of euphoria a result of sexual satisfaction? Perhaps in an ideal world we could say that this is no one else's business, but we do not live in a vacuum so unfortunately others are being affected. Based on what I read on “autogynphila” is just sounds like the demonization of a trans woman’s sexuality How is it any different then how the sexual fantasies of cis people in different forms ? cis women don’t masturbate when thinking about themselves in lingerie and acting out gender stereotypes (and yes i’ve heard multiple transbians either say they do this or imply it)
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Post by carcar on May 27, 2022 9:14:44 GMT 10
Based on what I read on “autogynphila” is just sounds like the demonization of a trans woman’s sexuality How is it any different then how the sexual fantasies of cis people in different forms ? cis women don’t masturbate when thinking about themselves in lingerie and acting out gender stereotypes (and yes i’ve heard multiple transbians either say they do this or imply it) So they’re role playing ? You can’t just say all cis women aren’t into a certain thing when there’s now a whole tik tok business coming from other cis women to be more feminine and people buying into it Also anyone wears lingerie to feel sexy, even cis gay men do. How the clothes Simone wear to feel sexy in they’re own mind is up to them including cis women who also enjoy wearing lingerie. Are trans people even allowed to have sexual lives like cis people do or is it going to be boiled down to perversion
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