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Post by slashpop on Nov 30, 2020 6:04:05 GMT 10
I think apps, throughout the last 5-8 years, played a big role in damaging the dating process and healthy social culture that it was more typically involved in a bit earlier. I mean there are can only be so much freedom, and that has its benefits, but when you look at the drawbacks you find easy access to cheating more than ever, a huge increase in having more unprotected sex/stds and an increase of objectification of people which is disconnecting people more than ever and also a decline in a desire for long term relationships and marriage to some extent due to oversaturation of access to hooking up among other factors.
Apps like tinder don't set out to do what they were originally intended to do, instead they create an imbalance and become a platform to allow many people questionable backgrounds to roam freely and put themselves out there and do their thing, and while its not all bad I do think the drawbacks and negatives have taken away from something.
I remember dating in the 2000s even the very early 2010s seem a better in terms of socializing being more of the forefront of things. It’s not all bad now but I do see some real issues with the direction of it.
What do you guys think?
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Post by John Titor on Nov 30, 2020 6:08:06 GMT 10
it did, half of my friends who are married cheat on each other or are in the process of divorcecause of problem "using Tinder and bumble"Let me just say this again.........Half of my friends who are married are in the process of filing for Divorcedue to cheating and hooking up on dating websites.My friend Briana who get engaged 2 years ago got cheated on 2 months ago when she found out her fiance downloaded Bumble and she discovered it.Another friend caught an STD from a hookup on Tinder, she did not disclose to him she had it 
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Post by slashpop on Nov 30, 2020 6:30:43 GMT 10
it did, half of my friends who are married cheat on each other or are in the process of divorcecause of problem "using Tinder and bumble"Let me just say this again.........Half of my friends who are married are in the process of filing for Divorcedue to cheating and hooking up on dating websites.My friend Briana who get engaged 2 years ago got cheated on 2 months ago when she found out her fiance downloaded Bumble and she discovered it.Another friend caught an STD from a hookup on Tinder, she did not disclose to him she had it
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Thats so crazy. Damn. Really sorry to hear that. These apps are seriously evil. They make it way to easy to do seriously messed up things. I can't imagine what kids are doing with them. I'm just remembering when everyone was pressured to do online dating in 2013-2015 nobody knew the long term side effects and dark side, they just thought it was all fun and games and faster way to meet people. They were so wrong. I feel like people in the 2000s had better standards, it was kind of odd if you were too into online dating and people were more focused onto holding onto people you met and trying to make it work. Once you have too many back up go to options that you can try with a snipe, everytime things aren't perfect, thats gotta to be a problem in some way. They are need to redesign dating apps to seriously enforce standards and ethics in a better way, or shit will get really ugly in 5-10 years from now.
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Post by John Titor on Dec 1, 2020 14:22:08 GMT 10
my advice for anyone reading this DO NOT meet anyone on dating apps until 2021
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2020 15:40:06 GMT 10
I accidentally dated a married person. He didn't tell me he was married until after a few months of knowing him. I was devastated.
There are a lot of married/non-single people on these apps. Even if they're smoking hot, my friends and I agreed it's immoral to indulge them. I'm not going to judge them harshly especially if they're closeted gays who married women but don't get me involved please, I ain't a homewrecker.
On the subject of dating apps in general, I know what you mean about the mental health problems they're causnig. I don't think online dating is bad in principle, but the way Tinder and others have created a "plenty of fish" phenomenon makes most communications shallow and non-committal. People always think a better date is just a swipe away, but they keep swiping and swiping, never coming to the obvious conclusion that nobody is 100% perfect. Tinder also puts way too much emphasis on looks. OkCupid used to be better for this but I heard they Tinderized themselves recently.
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Post by aja675 on Dec 1, 2020 15:54:46 GMT 10
BTW, is it just me, or is there a difference between dating apps and hookup sites that are still mostly desktop? The latter tend to be more openly sleazy, and apps tend to be a bit more fake-polite and fake-classy, I guess? (Like, I was on one of said sites and one guy told me his girlfriend was in the shower.)
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Post by John Titor on Dec 1, 2020 17:20:08 GMT 10
I accidentally dated a married person. He didn't tell me he was married until after a few months of knowing him. I was devastated. There are a lot of married/non-single people on these apps. Even if they're smoking hot, my friends and I agreed it's immoral to indulge them. I'm not going to judge them harshly especially if they're closeted gays who married women but don't get me involved please, I ain't a homewrecker. On the subject of dating apps in general, I know what you mean about the mental health problems they're causnig. I don't think online dating is bad in principle, but the way Tinder and others have created a "plenty of fish" phenomenon makes most communications shallow and non-committal. People always think a better date is just a swipe away, but they keep swiping and swiping, never coming to the obvious conclusion that nobody is 100% perfect. Tinder also puts way too much emphasis on looks. OkCupid used to be better for this but I heard they Tinderized themselves recently. yupp typical Tinder, you guys gotta be careful, a study went out recently about STD rates on the rise and people on dating websites not disclosing it until AFTER sex. PLEASE BE CAREFUL!
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Post by slashpop on Dec 1, 2020 22:16:07 GMT 10
I accidentally dated a married person. He didn't tell me he was married until after a few months of knowing him. I was devastated. There are a lot of married/non-single people on these apps. Even if they're smoking hot, my friends and I agreed it's immoral to indulge them. I'm not going to judge them harshly especially if they're closeted gays who married women but don't get me involved please, I ain't a homewrecker. On the subject of dating apps in general, I know what you mean about the mental health problems they're causnig. I don't think online dating is bad in principle, but the way Tinder and others have created a "plenty of fish" phenomenon makes most communications shallow and non-committal. People always think a better date is just a swipe away, but they keep swiping and swiping, never coming to the obvious conclusion that nobody is 100% perfect. Tinder also puts way too much emphasis on looks. OkCupid used to be better for this but I heard they Tinderized themselves recently. It is seriously messed up whats worse there aren't any real effective measures to reduce what married cheaters do, what's worse is when they drag you into it, and don't see any problem doing what they do. It seems now much more people are under the false illusion that dating apps are better because of choice and as a result seem less open to dating in real life, with what they have in their social circles and with places they can instantly go to get to know or meet people, generally speaking Dating apps need a lot of work, I don't want to sound like some kind control freak but imo I would rather them enforce serious background tests on multiple levels, and have more quality apps focused on building a connection (hobbies or interests etc) more immediate or immersive ways to communicate (VR, or something different) or actual dating (creative ways to meet ups at places) rather than just promoting peoples bodies and stats through a static profile, endless chats etc I've got a gut feeling people in 2030 or something will be looking at 2010s dating apps and cringing in the same way people cringe at the internet from 1995. They are likely to evolve anyways. I can't imagine nobody improving on them at some point, especially if the virus persists.
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Post by John Titor on Dec 2, 2020 2:47:14 GMT 10
I accidentally dated a married person. He didn't tell me he was married until after a few months of knowing him. I was devastated. There are a lot of married/non-single people on these apps. Even if they're smoking hot, my friends and I agreed it's immoral to indulge them. I'm not going to judge them harshly especially if they're closeted gays who married women but don't get me involved please, I ain't a homewrecker. On the subject of dating apps in general, I know what you mean about the mental health problems they're causnig. I don't think online dating is bad in principle, but the way Tinder and others have created a "plenty of fish" phenomenon makes most communications shallow and non-committal. People always think a better date is just a swipe away, but they keep swiping and swiping, never coming to the obvious conclusion that nobody is 100% perfect. Tinder also puts way too much emphasis on looks. OkCupid used to be better for this but I heard they Tinderized themselves recently. It is seriously messed up whats worse there aren't any real effective measures to reduce what married cheaters do, what's worse is when they drag you into it, and don't see any problem doing what they do. It seems now much more people are under the false illusion that dating apps are better because of choice and as a result seem less open to dating in real life, with what they have in their social circles and with places they can instantly go to get to know or meet people, generally speaking Dating apps need a lot of work, I don't want to sound like some kind control freak but imo I would rather them enforce serious background tests on multiple levels, and have more quality apps focused on building a connection (hobbies or interests etc) more immediate or immersive ways to communicate (VR, or something different) or actual dating (creative ways to meet ups at places) rather than just promoting peoples bodies and stats through a static profile, endless chats etc I've got a gut feeling people in 2030 or something will be looking at 2010s dating apps and cringing in the same way people cringe at the internet from 1995. They are likely to evolve anyways. I can't imagine nobody improving on them at some point, especially if the virus persists. YUPP  Trust me I know people have Herpes and CLap because of these apps ^
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Post by slashpop on Dec 2, 2020 3:47:53 GMT 10
It is seriously messed up whats worse there aren't any real effective measures to reduce what married cheaters do, what's worse is when they drag you into it, and don't see any problem doing what they do. It seems now much more people are under the false illusion that dating apps are better because of choice and as a result seem less open to dating in real life, with what they have in their social circles and with places they can instantly go to get to know or meet people, generally speaking Dating apps need a lot of work, I don't want to sound like some kind control freak but imo I would rather them enforce serious background tests on multiple levels, and have more quality apps focused on building a connection (hobbies or interests etc) more immediate or immersive ways to communicate (VR, or something different) or actual dating (creative ways to meet ups at places) rather than just promoting peoples bodies and stats through a static profile, endless chats etc I've got a gut feeling people in 2030 or something will be looking at 2010s dating apps and cringing in the same way people cringe at the internet from 1995. They are likely to evolve anyways. I can't imagine nobody improving on them at some point, especially if the virus persists. YUPP Trust me I know people have Herpes and CLap because of these apps ^ Honestly someone needs to disable them for a while until they get improve or get upgraded. It would make things better tbh.
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Post by John Titor on Dec 2, 2020 6:25:15 GMT 10
YUPP Trust me I know people have Herpes and CLap because of these apps ^ Honestly someone needs to disable them for a while until they get improve or get upgraded. It would make things better tbh. def needs to be shutdown for a year lmao
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2020 14:29:36 GMT 10
I accidentally dated a married person. He didn't tell me he was married until after a few months of knowing him. I was devastated. There are a lot of married/non-single people on these apps. Even if they're smoking hot, my friends and I agreed it's immoral to indulge them. I'm not going to judge them harshly especially if they're closeted gays who married women but don't get me involved please, I ain't a homewrecker. On the subject of dating apps in general, I know what you mean about the mental health problems they're causnig. I don't think online dating is bad in principle, but the way Tinder and others have created a "plenty of fish" phenomenon makes most communications shallow and non-committal. People always think a better date is just a swipe away, but they keep swiping and swiping, never coming to the obvious conclusion that nobody is 100% perfect. Tinder also puts way too much emphasis on looks. OkCupid used to be better for this but I heard they Tinderized themselves recently. yupp typical Tinder, you guys gotta be careful, a study went out recently about STD rates on the rise and people on dating websites not disclosing it until AFTER sex. PLEASE BE CAREFUL! I always use condoms. There are people out there who think taking PReP (anti-HIV treatment) will protect you from all STDs, even non-HIV smh. I also need to get me some vaccines. After this year I want to get vaccinated for everything lol.
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Post by SharksFan99 on Dec 2, 2020 14:43:36 GMT 10
The dating apps have honestly ruined the appeal of getting into a relationship for me. I would like to get into a relationship with someone since I have never been in one and i'm still a virgin, but at 21, most of the people my age who are on those dating apps are only those who are after a short fling. I feel like there's no other alternative. Meeting someone at a bar/cub is out of the option for me since I don't drink alcohol and i'm an introvert. It's frustrating, because I want a relationship with real substance, I don't just want to swipe right on a dating app and then get dumped by a girl a couple of months later.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2020 14:58:12 GMT 10
The dating apps have honestly ruined the appeal of getting into a relationship for me. I would like to get into a relationship with someone since I have never been in one and i'm still a virgin, but at 21, most of the people my age who are on those dating apps are only those who are after a short fling. I feel like there's no other alternative. Meeting someone at a bar/cub is out of the option for me since I don't drink alcohol and i'm an introvert. It's frustrating, because I want a relationship with real substance, I don't just want to swipe right on a dating app and then get dumped by a girl a couple of months later. It's not all bad. If you are upfront about what you want you might be able to find somebody. It's still going to be a pain to use dating apps, but every now and then you do strike gold.
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Post by smartboi on Dec 4, 2020 8:42:00 GMT 10
The dating apps have honestly ruined the appeal of getting into a relationship for me. I would like to get into a relationship with someone since I have never been in one and i'm still a virgin, but at 21, most of the people my age who are on those dating apps are only those who are after a short fling. I feel like there's no other alternative. Meeting someone at a bar/cub is out of the option for me since I don't drink alcohol and i'm an introvert. It's frustrating, because I want a relationship with real substance, I don't just want to swipe right on a dating app and then get dumped by a girl a couple of months later. I was just thinking of this the other day. So many young adults rely on dating apps and its made meeting people in person even more of a pain in the ass. With the pandemic starting to come to an end hopefully more people will become desperate to socialize in person.
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