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Post by rainbow on Aug 3, 2022 11:35:01 GMT 10
So a few days ago I came across this thread on r/unpopularopinion where someone said that not allowing kids to sleepover at other kid's houses is an example of helicopter parenting. I was agreeing with most of what they said, but when I read the comments, I was actually surprised at how many people (specifically parents themselves) disagreed. A lot of their arguments against sleepovers was that kids are more likely to be sexually assaulted by someone they "trust" (their friends relatives) and that a lot of cases of SA against minors usually happens at sleepovers, so they don't feel comfortable leaving their child with those people. Now the vast, vast majority of us don't have kids (some of us don't even plan on having them) so we may be biased in our answers. I will say that I had sleepovers as a kid and they were by far one of the best things for my social development. Especially as someone who was shy as a kid. I think if I were to have kids, I'd definitely want them to have sleepovers. I don't think anyone would disagree that you should get to know the parents and meet the family beforehand, but provided I don't get any bad gut feelings then I see no reason to not let them sleepover and have fun. I'd also encourage my child to call me if they do ever feel uncomfortable. Like I said before, most of us here (if not all of us) don't have kids so we prob feel differently on this issue than actual parents.
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Post by crystalmetheny0428 on Aug 3, 2022 11:44:16 GMT 10
i only had sleepovers with my cousins as a kid (like all the time). it’s not that i wasn’t allowed to have sleepovers with other kids it’s just i didn’t feel comfortable with it. with that being said, if i had kids i probably wouldn’t allow sleepovers in elementary school but once they become teenagers sure
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Post by al on Aug 3, 2022 12:13:26 GMT 10
Personally I did not enjoy them so the only "sleepovers" I had basically consisted of when my mom would babysit other kids. On one hand, I think I might feel insulted if I were a parent and my child's friends were uncomfortable allowing their child over my house. On the other, I know I would be cautious regarding where I would allow my children to go without my supervision. Ideally they would spend some time there in the day first and I would meet all of the adults living there. There can also be an issue of who else is invited to a larger party/who your child invites into your home. Beyond just issues with the family members, I have also heard stories about unknowingly invited young teens revealing themselves as creeps towards the other guests or siblings. Vetting without displaying paranoia is going to be key, in my opinion. I also think that by high school age kids need to start being trusted to make good decisions about people on their own, though with guidance and the option to call someone in case of any problems.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2023 8:42:49 GMT 10
Uh-uh. I wouldn't let my kids sleep over, if I had kids. I don't even have kids! That was a back in the day kind of thing though. Back when times were safer. It's not safe anymore. I hope the future will be better.
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Post by mediaguy93 on Jul 30, 2023 9:18:52 GMT 10
No because I never plan on having kids. And no I'm not a career guy either. The mature lifestyle in general is unappealing to me.
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